As a counsellor of old, my adage was to help everyone to find themselves; generally at my expense.
Yes indeed, dearest, we know that this was true for you. Did you enjoy assisting others in this fashion, dearest?
Yes and no. I always enjoy seeing others being successful at whatever they do. However, what I did not enjoy was the burden I placed upon myself.
The burden, dearest?
Yes; I was of the belief that I had to assist those who came to me for assistance; I was an open book, so to speak. The words on my cover page were:
‘All who are having difficulties are welcome’.
You are being somewhat sarcastic, dearest.
Yes I am; with a tinge of humour directed at myself.
Indeed yes, dearest, we appreciate your stance. During those years of assisting all and sundry, dearest, what did you learn?
I learned that I made myself a magnet for those who wanted help, but perhaps, did not really want to help themselves.
Indeed, dearest; can you elucidate?
During the process of helping others I placed myself at jeopardy of carrying the burdens of others. I came to understand that those who truly want to grow and progress onto a greater degree of maturity do not wish to become a burden to anyone, so to speak. They, those who have their own best interest at heart, will fight within themselves for a better appreciation of their foibles. Their viewpoint is to take the proverbial bull by the horns and throw it as far as they can in the hope of attaining the self knowledge that will guide them on to a better view of themselves, and life.
Are you saying, dearest, that those who are willing to investigate themselves, their weaknesses, their strengths, are those who seek the rewards that a greater and true perspective of themselves can garner?
Yes, indeed I am.
And those who rely on the teacher, the coach, dearest?
They prove to be a burden to individuals, such as I was, who, because of a naive desire to be of assistance, actually carry a burden that is not theirs to carry.
© 2019 Carolyn Page & The Collective Consciousness
ABC of Spirit Talk