How Should I Handle This?

How should I handle this?

Help me, please……

Our dearest is displaying a part of her character once again. It has to do with perfectionism; yes it has. We shall explain:

Our dearest loves to dance; this is a known condition, Dear Ones. Our dearest enjoys movement of any fashion, though, particularly in dance.

We are currently inspiring our dearest to learn the Latin movements. This requires practice; yes it does, Dear Ones.

However, in order to facilitate the enjoyment of dance our dearest requires a willing partner. We have not, as yet, inspired our Dear Heart, Keith, with the same amount of inspiration; leaving a void of inspiration between the two. How is this to be handled; our dearest has asked.

Our response, Dear Ones:  There will always be a differential of inspiration, Dear Hearts. Some will be given inspiration in great quantity; whilst others will receive only degrees of the same inspiration. This causes a quandary between the two, Dear Ones, as you can well imagine.

The solution lies in honouring both. For instance, in regard to our dearest’s quandary:

Our dearest will need to practice to the extent that she is inspired, and leave her Dear Heart Keith to join in when he feels inspired.

This is already having a profound effect upon our dearest’s thinking. She now appreciates that she can practice, in her Dear Heart’s presence.

If, we say, if he is inspired to follow suit, so shall it be……


Immediately upon receiving this written advice I turned on the Rumba music and began to practice. Within seconds Keith joined me.

What a wonderful lesson The C.C. had given me!  Had Keith not joined me I would have continued practicing on my own (honouring myself), and would have honoured him by not pressuring him to dance.


Some hours later:  We, Keith and I, have not long returned home from our Sunday Dance Social. We had, as usual, a wonderful time. Toward the end of the evening, on the dance programme, was a second Rumba. You guessed it! Keith wanted to stay long enough to enjoy yet another Rumba.

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    1. This was a great lesson for me, Charlie. I must remember this for all sorts of life situations. There are so many levels upon which this has importance; little situations and the bigger ones. Honour me; honour everyone!
      In the past I’ve ‘bullied’ (nagged) my darling Keith into practicing dance. By not behaving this way, and by honouring myself, he willingly joined me… Is my face a little red? You betcha… 🙂
      And yes, I agree with you. This attitude then allowed the – ‘can’t beat them join them’… ‘with pleasure’…. 🙂

    1. Absolutely, Megala, I wholeheartedly agree. 🙂
      However, in this instance I wasn’t doing this. My desire to learn the movements (my perfectionism, ugg) prevented me from honouring both myself and Keith.
      Once I understood this I was able to honour myself (something I haven’t always done) and also honour Keith by not pressuring him to do something he wasn’t inspired to do.
      The outcome of this change of thinking and behaviour has had a wonderful result. Keith is now contemplating having Latin dance lessons… That would/will be marvelous!
      The spreading of the ‘positive energy’ as you say, is having a wonderful result. I never cease to be amazed.. 🙂

  1. Charlee: “I think Mama and Dada enjoy the rumba, too.”
    Chaplin: “I’ve heard that sometimes when they announce a rumba, depending on the music, Dada will do an Argentine tango instead. I think that means he’s a rebel.”
    Charlee: “Thank you for coming to see us and for your kind words after Dennis went to the Rainbow Bridge. It meant a lot to us.”
    Chaplin: “And to Mama and Dada too.”
    Both: “And Dennis told us to tell you, ‘ok bye’.”

    1. I would love to see that, Charlee and Chaplin; an Argentine Tango danced to Rumba music – cool. 😎

      And Thank You for giving me Dennis’s message. Whenever I think of him I will be reminded – Love makes the world go round.
      Do give Mama and Dada my Love ❤

    1. A wonderful lesson for me, Richa, to ‘dance’ to my own set of drums; and allow others the same honour. It seems to come under the heading of: Individuality in union! ❤

  2. Respecting each other’s choices and inspiration, honouring individuality being part of the same team, is such an important part of relationships with others. Such an important ‘moral’ of the story to spread a little empathy, respect and positivity around 🙂
    Caz xx

  3. It’s always been that way. I do what I am inspired to do. He fulfills his inspirations. There are definitely things he loves to do that I doubt I will ever want to do, and vice versa.
    There is a place where we are inspired to share certain things. It’s a grand picnic, of sorts, on that green grass.
    It works the same for close friends. 😀 xoxoxo ❦❦

    1. I love your description:
      “It’s a grand picnic, of sorts, on that green grass.” 🙂

      He has his work/minerals, I have ‘this’, my work/love/all encompassing devotion.
      We have dance… But, he hates to practise…. until just recently when I practised on my own. Voilà, it worked. He joined in… 😉 😉

      I cannot bear it, Resa. There MUST be ‘unity’ between us; even if this means using spicy manipulation 😉 😉 There is ‘always’ a way when one is sneaky and will not tolerate losing… And, asks The C.C. for help..

      Hahaaaa… I don’t believe I’ve written that, but, there it is for all to see:

      I’m a girl on a mission, and nothing will stop me!!!
      Cackle, Cackle.. 💀 👻 🔥 💞 💑

      xoxoxo 👼 👼 👼

      PS: I think this may be followed up with more sneaky ways to create unity.. 🙂

      1. LOL!! Yes you are on a mission, and you will never lose. You could be openly, but quietly sneaky. Or you could be, as open as the Grand Canyon.
        It’s your heart that brings unity, even when being sneaky.
        Let’s call sneaky…. creativity. xoxoxo 👼 👼 👼 😀
        Sneaky could also be clever, shrewd or a better Chess Player.

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